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the bribe

So today Jed's supposed to clean his room. He's actually been in there about 6 hours, since his father said he can't come out until it's done. As far as I can tell, nothing has been put away in that time, although perhaps some more items have come out of the toy tub during the endeavor. I got up a moment ago to check on the progress. "What do you think mom? Looking good?" I took a long look around the room, saw the covers on the floor, the tubs overflowing with random items, the dirty clothes bin sitting on its side with shirt falling out, the Lego creations he's made today, and answered "hmmm, maybe not so good." Jed got up off his bed and walked over to me. "Tell you what mom, how about I give you three big ones and you look the other way?" Jed reaches into the jar on his dresser and pulls out three, crumpled one dollar bills. I must have looked amused because he went on. "Seriously mom, it could be yours." I explained...

sigh

My son thinks he doesn't need to go to second grade. He knows everything, he tells me. If he stayed home he could take care of the dogs. If I stayed home with him we could just snuggle all day. I'm a mean mom and make him go to school anyway. Every day I pick him up I do the hard sell on how great going to school is. Yesterday, I did my usual asking of open ended questions (trying to force him beyond the grunts of "uh-huh" or "nothing" that yes or no questions elicit) and we had this conversation. Jed: "My teacher is really quite horrible mom. Seriously." Mama: "How so? Give me an example of what she does that's so horrible." Jed: "We're not allowed to tell you. We're supposed to keep it secret." Mama: "Why Jed, that's not good. You better tell me!" Jed: "Okay, mom, I'll tell you. She hits us. And she hits us with something." Mama: "She hits you with something?! That...

autumn

Fall has come to Fairbanks. It's sunny outside right now, and relatively warm, but the air is different, sharper somehow. I love fall. One reason it's the start of a new year for those of us whose lives revolve around education for our jobs and kids. Fall means new clothes, new opportunities, new friends, new adventures. It's the start of routines, that make life feel more comfortable, predictable and safe. I love fall because it's the perfect weather for me. Too cool for bugs, yet warm enough to get outside. Camping in the falltime is one of my favorite things to do. I love to wake up and slowly peek out from my sleeping bag, letting the cool air become my breath and feeling my nose get chilly. The morning's cold enough to require a nice mug of coffee, yet I don't have to bundle up too much with heavy coats and gear. By lunchtime the air is warm, short sleeves emerge, and I can play outside all day without suffering from heat exhaustion or having to su...

a numbers game

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Here's my advice for today: There are two possessions one should never count - shoes or books. You see my friend, counting these items creates a impossible situation. No matter what number you come up with, it doesn't seem like enough to the owner. And no matter what number you come up with, friends and family will express astonishment and think you're excessive. The reality is that one can never own too many shoes, or too many books. Shoes turn the mundane work day into something fun and exciting. Having the right shoes for an occasion not only helps to smooth social interactions, but it marks a person as professional and caring about his/her appearance. Plus, shoes are just cool. As for books, if one has a book, one is never alone. Books allow the reader to travel the world and examine life's conflicts and passions without having to enter into dangerous situations. Books inspire thinking and examination of issues. Think of Ralph Waldo Emerson's quote ...

yum

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I think one of the world's greatest inventions is the blueberry lemon drop. A variation of the traditional lemon drop from the genus vodka and species martini, a blueberry martini utilizes blueberry flavored vodka in lieu of plain vodka. The subtle blueberry essence, when married with the sweet yet sour lemon drop base makes for a taste sensation. In other words, they're just damn good. Another reason I enjoy the luscious blueberry lemon drop is that it reminds me of my sister. No, she's not a hopeless drinker (although maybe a hopeless stinker! ha ha!) it's that we shared a delightful evening at her home this summer sharing this particular cocktail. So drinking a freshly shaken, not stirred, martini makes me think of her. Lastly, it's Friday night after a long week. The kids started school on Wednesday, and even though they enjoy being back at school, it's been a bit stressful getting us all back on a routine. So it was nice to come home, throw open the ...

tomorrow

The first day of school is tomorrow. Ali will be a sophomore in high school; tenth grade is a big year. She's got her outfit all picked out though she's still undecided about how to wear her hair. She's checked with her friends via Facebook and texting to find out who's in her classes with her. Watch out Lathrop High School, here she comes! Jed will be in second grade. He's in a 2nd / 3rd multi-age class this year, which he's not thrilled about although he says he's willing to give it a try. He knows some kids in his class, and although his best friend Henri isn't in his class his teacher promises they can see each other at lunch and recess. First the first time in a long time I'm not uptight about the first day of school. Last year I spent the night before having a breakdown, and I had decided halfway through the first day that I wouldn't be teaching. Prior to that I'd always been super excited and happy about the first day of school,...

nana vs. della

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Della is our puppy. Jed got her for Christmas and when we brought her home she was exactly 6 weeks old and fit in Bob's cupped hands. As opposed to our other big dogs, she needed to stay inside and had to sleep with one of us because she got scared and cried. Now, at 9 months old, Della thinks she's an equal member of the family, and is pretty much treated as such. She sleeps on the couch, or a bed, comes in and out constantly, and chews on Jed as she would with another puppy. This has been a big step at our house, although I hesitate to mention it because Bob will deny it. See, Bob grew up on a farm where dogs - all animals - stayed outside. Dogs had fleas and were simply not on a par with humans. I grew up where I might get chastised from my mother for trying to move a dog off the couch so I could sit down. The dog was there first. So much our our union has been spent debating the role of dogs in our family and boundaries we set for them. Bob has finally seen the ligh...